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There you are, tumbling through the front door with your date like a scene out of a romantic comedy. It's pretty obvious you're about to hook up for the first time, and you feel all types of ways. Nervous? Yes. Excited? Of course. But you might also be worried about making some kind of 'mistake.'
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While not everyone gets nervous when they're with someone new, it is totally normal to feel a bit self-conscious or awkward, or to wonder what's 'OK' and what isn't. As sex and relationship therapist Courtney Geter, LMFT, tells Bustle, 'These feelings can be triggered by thoughts about your sexual performance, body image issues, and comparing yourself to this person's other partners or hookups.' The nerve-racking list is endless, really. But it doesn't mean you have to have a bad time.
However you define 'hook up' — a one night stand, the first time you have sex with a partner-to-be, etc. — it should be as fun and healthy an experience as possible. So, here are some common mistakes everyone makes when doing the deed. Avoid them, and you should have yourself one heck of a time.
1. Not Stopping To Talk About Your Likes & Dislikes
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While it may be momentarily awkward, don't be afraid to wax poetic about your thoughts and desires before you have sex. And don't feel weird about asking your partner what they like, either.
This might mean pausing for a brief moment to be honest about what you're looking for, and you can certainly make it a part of the sexy conversation you have whilst tumbling into bed, as a way to make it easier.
But if you do hesitate, keep in mind that sharing what you enjoy will help to ensure you both have a good time, relationship expert David Bennett tells Bustle, which can definitely serve as motivation.
2. Never Speaking Up During Sex
You might also find it tricky to share your thoughts during sex. And that makes a lot of sense. Lots of folks worry about 'ruining the mood.' or being too honest with a somebody new. But it's still so important.
Whether it's before sex or during, if something pops into your mind that feels worth sharing, let it be known. 'Sex is meant to feel good and enjoyable,' Greter says. So you may want to direct them to what feels good, or offer a few ideas.
Speaking up becomes particularly crucial, though, if something is making you uncomfortable. By not pointing it out or letting them know, you won't have the experience you're looking for.
3. Going In With Unclear Expectations
If you're invested in this person and would like to see the relationship go somewhere, relationship expert Kailen Rosenberg tells Bustle, it'll be even more important to check in with yourself beforehand, lest anyone's feelings get hurt.
While you don't have to map out the entire relationship's future before hooking up, you might take a quick moment to get on the same page, and ensure you're both thinking (roughly) the same thing.
Is this just going to be a fun experience for the night, or are you looking for a long-term partner? If it's weighing heavy on your mind, let them know.
4. Caring Too Much About Being 'Good'
While everyone wants to be 'good in bed,' a healthy and exciting hook up is so not about that. In fact, the moment you can let it all go and have fun, the better. After all, 'nobody is supposed to know anybody's body yet,' psychoanalyst Dr. Claudia Luiz, tells Bustle. 'If it isn't a little awkward, something's wrong.'
Sure, you might have amazing chemistry right off the bat, and feel as if everything falls into place. But if it's clunky, if you need to take a break, if you aren't sure which position to try, or just so happen to bash foreheads mid-makeout, never fear. It happens to everyone, and is nothing to be ashamed of.
5. Doing Something You're Not Comfortable With
In the heat of the moment, it can be difficult to figure out what you're comfortable doing, and sometimes even more difficult to say 'no' or 'not yet,' why is why it's so important to set up boundaries before getting too far in, certified life coach Cassandra James, tells Bustle.
Go into the evening knowing what you'll feel comfy doing, as well as what's going to be off limits. This can be an ongoing discussion you have with yourself, and it's always fine to figure it out as you go, and think 'hmm, OK, never trying that again.' But if you already have some hard and fast rules, don't let anyone pressure you into breaking them.
6. Not Paying Attention To Your Own Needs
While a hook up will obviously be about those involved, try not to focus solely on your partner, and forget about yourself. As Geter says, staying tuned into your own needs and desires (you know, multitasking) is where it's at.
It can be a lot to think about, as you try to balance all your thoughts, along with what you're doing, and what your partner is doing. So if you happen to forget or think you could do better next time, that's fine. You can, however, go into a hook up knowing that your needs are important, too, and try to make them a priority.
7. Feeling Like You Have To Teach Your Partner Something New
Unless you're being awesome and pointing out what you like in bed, don't feel like you have to spend the night telling your partner what's what. And you certainly don't have to get too creative, or teach them something new — like some weird position involving a couch — if you don't want to.
'This is not the time to teach anybody anything,' Luiz says. You first hook up can simply be a time to get out of your head and do whatever feels right. If both of you are into it, then go for it, but don't feel pressured to wow them, or try funky positions, or be over the top. If you hook up again, there will be plenty of time for that.
8. Forgetting To Tell Someone Where You're Going
In an effort to be as safe as possible, it's always a good idea to give your friends a heads up when going home with someone new. If you met this person on a dating app, tell your friend (or roommate, or mom) their name, where you plan to meet, and call them again once you get home safely.
You might also 'consider using an app like iSurvive, which allows you to quickly and secretly send your location to multiple friends at once so they can come to your aid without involving family members or the authorities — unless absolutely necessary,' Daniel Saurborn, MD, tells Bustle.
This will help keep you safe when out and about with people you don't know very well, so you can have a good time without worrying, or causing your loves ones to worry.
9. Feeling Anything Less Than Confident
Easier said than done, of course. But going into a hook up situation worrying about your body, or your skill level, or whatever else is a recipe for a lame night. So give yourself a little confidence boost beforehand, perhaps by popping off to the bathroom to give yourself a bit of a pep talk.
'You can do this both inside and outside,' psychologist Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, tells Bustle. Try reciting a few self-esteem mantras, or showing up in an outfit that makes you feel particularly great. Whatever that may be.
10. Forgoing Any Form Of Protection
By now we all know the importance of using protection. That goes without saying. But even the most wary among us can forget, or think it's fine 'just this one time.'
It's also easy to get caught up in the moment, so be prepared and think ahead. As Saurborn says, 'The absolute simplest way to protect yourself (whether boy or girl, gay or straight) is to bring a condom (or two) with you.' And, of course, you should always follow up with a doctor if you happen to forget.
11. Not Processing It Afterward If You're Interested In The Relationship Moving Forward
OK, so the deed is done and you (hopefully) had a great time. Now, don't forget to process what just went down, including how it felt, and whether you might like to do it again. You might even want to chat with your partner, at some point, to see how it was for them, Luiz says.
This will help grow your relationship, if that's what you'd like to see happen. But it will also be the perfect moment to focus on what you learned from your hook up, and what sorts of revelations and new outlooks you can bring to the next one.
Abandoning his earlier plan to compose an epic on Arthur, Milton instead turned to biblical subject matter and to a Christian idea of heroism. In Paradise Lost—first published in 10 books in 1667 and then in 12 books in 1674, at a length of almost 11,000 lines—Milton observed but adapted a number of the Classical epic conventions that distinguish works such as Homer’sThe Iliad and The Odyssey and Virgil’s The Aeneid.
Among these conventions is a focus on the elevated subjects of war, love, and heroism. In Book 6 Milton describes the battle between the good and evil angels; the defeat of the latter results in their expulsion from heaven. In the battle, the Son (Jesus Christ) is invincible in his onslaught against Satan and his cohorts. But Milton’s emphasis is less on the Son as a warrior and more on his love for humankind; the Father, in his celestial dialogue with the Son, foresees the sinfulness of Adam and Eve, and the Son chooses to become incarnate and to suffer humbly to redeem them. Though his role as saviour of fallen humankind is not enacted in the epic, Adam and Eve before their expulsion from Eden learn of the future redemptive ministry of Jesus, the exemplary gesture of self-sacrificing love. The Son’s selfless love contrasts strikingly with the selfish love of the heroes of Classical epics, who are distinguished by their valour on the battlefield, which is usually incited by pride and vainglory. Their strength and skills on the battlefield and their acquisition of the spoils of war also issue from hate, anger, revenge, greed, and covetousness. If Classical epics deem their protagonists heroic for their extreme passions, even vices, the Son in Paradise Lost exemplifies Christian heroism both through his meekness and magnanimity and through his patience and fortitude.
Like many Classical epics, Paradise Lostinvokes a muse, whom Milton identifies at the outset of the poem:
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Sing Heav’nly Muse, that on the secret top
Of Horeb, or of Sinai, didst inspire
That shepherd, who first taught the chosen seed,
In the beginning how the heav’ns and earth
Rose out of chaos; or if Sion hill
Delight thee more, and Siloa’s brook that flowed
Fast by the oracle of God: I thence
Invoke thy aid to my advent’rous song,
That with no middle flight intends to soar
Above the Aonian mount, while it pursues
Things unattempted yet in prose or rhyme.
This muse is the Judaeo-Christian Godhead. Citing manifestations of the Godhead atop Horeb and Sinai, Milton seeks inspiration comparable to that visited upon Moses, to whom is ascribed the composition of the book of Genesis. Much as Moses was inspired to recount what he did not witness, so also Milton seeks inspiration to write about biblical events. Recalling Classical epics, in which the haunts of the muses are not only mountaintops but also waterways, Milton cites Siloa’s brook, where in the New Testament a blind man acquired sight after going there to wash off the clay and spittle placed over his eyes by Jesus. Likewise, Milton seeks inspiration to enable him to envision and narrate events to which he and all human beings are blind unless chosen for enlightenment by the Godhead. With his reference to “the Aonian mount,” or Mount Helicon in Greece, Milton deliberately invites comparison with Classical antecedents. He avers that his work will supersede these predecessors and will accomplish what has not yet been achieved: a biblical epic in English.
Paradise Lost also directly invokes Classical epics by beginning its action in medias res. Book 1 recounts the aftermath of the war in heaven, which is described only later, in Book 6. At the outset of the epic, the consequences of the loss of the war include the expulsion of the fallen angels from heaven and their descent into hell, a place of infernal torment. With the punishment of the fallen angels having been described early in the epic, Milton in later books recounts how and why their disobedience occurred. Disobedience and its consequences, therefore, come to the fore in Raphael’s instruction of Adam and Eve, who (especially in Books 6 and 8) are admonished to remain obedient. By examining the sinfulness of Satan in thought and in deed, Milton positions this part of his narrative close to the temptation of Eve. This arrangement enables Milton to highlight how and why Satan, who inhabits a serpent to seduce Eve in Book 9, induces in her the inordinate pride that brought about his own downfall. Satan arouses in Eve a comparable state of mind, which is enacted in her partaking of the forbidden fruit, an act of disobedience.
Milton’s epic begins in the hellish underworld and returns there after Satan has tempted Eve to disobedience. In line with Classical depictions of the underworld, Milton emphasizes its darkness, for hell’s fires, which are ashen gray, inflict pain but do not provide light. The torments of hell (“on all sides round”) also suggest a location like an active volcano. In the Classical tradition, Typhon, who revolted against Jove, was driven down to earth by a thunderbolt, incarcerated under Mount Etna in Sicily, and tormented by the fire of this active volcano. Accommodating this Classical analogue to his Christian perception, Milton renders hell chiefly according to biblical accounts, most notably the book of Revelation. The poem’s depictions of hell also echo the epic convention of a descent into the underworld.
Throughout Paradise Lost Milton uses a grand style aptly suited to the elevated subject matter and tone. In a prefatory note, Milton describes the poem’s metre as “English heroic verse without rhyme,” which approximates “that of Homer in Greek, and of Virgil in Latin.” Rejecting rhyme as “the jingling sound of like endings,” Milton prefers a measure that is not end-stopped, so that he may employ enjambment (run-on lines) with “the sense variously drawn out from one verse into another.” The grand style that he adopts consists of unrhymed iambic pentameter (blank verse) and features sonorous rhythms pulsating through and beyond one verse into the next. By composing his biblical epic in this measure, he invites comparison with works by Classical forebears. Without using punctuation at the end of many verses, Milton also creates voluble units of rhythm and sense that go well beyond the limitations he perceived in rhymed verse.
Milton also employs other elements of a grand style, most notably epic similes. These explicit comparisons introduced by “like” or “as” proliferate across Paradise Lost. Milton tends to add one comparison after another, each one protracted. Accordingly, in one long passage in Book 1, Satan’s shield is likened to the Moon as viewed through Galileo’s telescope; his spear is larger than the mast of a flagship; the fallen angels outstretched on the lake of fire after their expulsion from heaven “lay entranced / Thick as autumnal leaves that strew the brooks / In Vallombrosa” (literally “Shady Valley,” outside Florence). The fallen angels resemble, moreover, the Egyptian cavalry that pursued the Israelites into the parted Red Sea, after which the collapse of the walls of water inundated the Egyptians and left the pharaoh’s chariots and charioteers weltering like flotsam.
Paradise Lost is ultimately not only about the downfall of Adam and Eve but also about the clash between Satan and the Son. Many readers have admired Satan’s splendid recklessness, if not heroism, in confronting the Godhead. Satan’s defiance, anger, willfulness, and resourcefulness define a character who strives never to yield. In many ways Satan is heroic when compared to such Classical prototypes as Achilles, Odysseus, and Aeneas and to similar protagonists in medieval and Renaissance epics. In sum, his traits reflect theirs.
But Milton composed a biblical epic in order to debunk Classical heroism and to extol Christian heroism, exemplified by the Son. Notwithstanding his victory in the battle against the fallen angels, the Son is more heroic because he is willing to undergo voluntary humiliation, a sign of his consummate love for humankind. He foreknows that he will become incarnate in order to suffer death, a selfless act whereby humankind will be redeemed. By such an act, moreover, the Son fulfills what Milton calls the “great argument” of his poem: to “justify the ways of God to man,” as Milton writes in Book 1. Despite Satan’s success against Adam and Eve, the hope of regeneration after sinfulness is provided by the Son’s self-sacrifice. Such hope and opportunity enable humankind to cooperate with the Godhead so as to defeat Satan, avoid damnation, overcome death, and ascend heavenward. Satan’s wiles, therefore, are thwarted by members of a regenerate humankind who choose to participate in the redemptive act that the Son has undertaken on their behalf.